3. Have a calm, non-negotiable conversation
Once you have taken your test and secured the evidence, sit him down in a quiet moment. Tell him directly and calmly that you saw the message from the woman regarding her positive test result. Do not allow him to gaslight you, blame you, or gloss over the situation.
4. Demand that he gets tested right away
Even if your own test comes back negative, he must get tested immediately. Depending on when exposure occurred, antibodies can take time to detect. You must protect yourself by using barrier protection (condoms) or abstaining from intimacy completely until both of you have verified medical clarity.5. Seek professional counseling
Once the immediate health risk is managed, you will need time to process the broken trust. Whether you choose to work on the marriage or walk away, speaking with a licensed marriage counselor or therapist will help you make a clear-headed decision for your future.
Someone sent me this message this morning. Please, ma, advise me because I honestly don’t know what to do.
